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Location: Greenfield Coffee (has great hot chocolate) 

Today has been in slow motion, almost like having to swim through pools of jello just to reach the end of it.

I helped my friend deal with his first real break up since the little relationships we pretended to have in first grade, and as words spilt out of me in an attempt to comfort him, I couldn't help but think about how people fall apart. 

Honestly, think about it. Most people fall apart slowly, kind of like the jello theory. You don't always realize it at first and then, by the time you do notice that things are hanging by a thread, it's often too late to to sew it back together. That sounds so cheesy, I know, but it's true. 

When I was talking to my aunt about love and all that jazz, we got into the topic of breakups, and how she thought that her first love was also going to be her last. She was so sheltered in the idea that he was perfect, she never noticed the things that—had she not been in a relationship with him—would really annoy the daylights out of her. She told me that one of the things she did to get over him was to make a list of all the things that weren't perfect, because once she classified him as human, it was easier for her to forgive and forget him. 

I'm not an expert in love or relationships, nor will I ever claim to be, heck I'm shit at friendships. This isn't supposed to be an advice type post, more of a rant on how the relationships we have can slowly deflate over time. 

I don't think you always have to forget the ones that leave. Sometimes it's more about accepting that they've left and trying to remember them fondly. My parents have recently gotten divorced and as it happened I watched both of them turn bitter when referring to the other. The scary thing is, at one point they were madly in love and enjoyed everything the other did—yeah they argued like everyone else but they were good. 

To finish this long ridiculous rant-type thing off, I'm writing my self-help list on crashing relationships (friendships): 

1: humanize 

2: forgive (if necessary, maybe they haven't done anything wrong) 

3: recollect positively 

4: move on (and/or forget) 

I think this was more for myself than anything, but if you made it till the end here, and it helped you in some weird way, let me know. :)